Never leave the site of a goal without first taking some form of positive action toward its attainment. Right now, take a moment to define the first steps you must take to achieve your goal. What can you do today to move yourself forward? Even the smallest step—a phone call, a commitment, sketching out an initial plan—will put you closer to your goal. Then develop a list of simple things you can do every day for building next ten days. These ten days of creating a chain of habits and building unstoppable momentum will ensure your long-term success. Begin now!
Friday, May 29, 2009
Step#20
Step#19
Day #4: CONTRIBUTION GOALS
This is your opportunity to leave your mark, to create a legacy that makes a true difference in people's lives.
1) Take five minutes to brainstorm all the possibilities: How can you contribute? Who or what can you help? What can you create?
2) Give each of your goals a timeline (6month, 1 year, 5years, 10 years, 20 years) for completion.
3) Highlight your top one-year goal.
4) In two minutes, write a brief paragraph stating why you are absolutely committed to achieving this goal within the next year.
Thursday, May 28, 2009
Words of love
Forgiving even though it's hard to forget; holding hands and never wanting to let go; hoping that tomorrow will be as wonderful as today; sharing secrets and whispers and star-spangled nights. And most importantly,
Love is…
Knowing that you'll never be lonely again.
Edith schaffer Lederberg
Words of love
Naomi Judd
Words of love
Stephen Taff
Words of love
It cultivates.
Love has power to give in a moment what toil can scarcely reach in an age.
I'm so glad that you are here it helps me to realize how beautiful my world is.
Johann wolfgang von Goethe
Words of love
Love is our highest word, and the synonym of God.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Step#20
Never leave the site of a goal without first taking some form of positive action toward its attainment. Right now, take a moment to define the first steps you must take to achieve your goal. What can you do today to move yourself forward? Even the smallest step—a phone call, a commitment, sketching out an initial plan—will put you closer to your goal. Then develop a list of simple things you can do every day for building next ten days. These ten days of creating a chain of habits and building unstoppable momentum will ensure your long-term success. Begin now!
Step#19
Day #4: CONTRIBUTION GOALS
This is your opportunity to leave your mark, to create a legacy that makes a true difference in people's lives.
1) Take five minutes to brainstorm all the possibilities: How can you contribute? Who or what can you help? What can you create?
2) Give each of your goals a timeline (6month, 1 year, 5years, 10 years, 20 years) for completion.
3) Highlight your top one-year goal.
4) In two minutes, write a brief paragraph stating why you are absolutely committed to achieving this goal within the next year.
Step#18
Day #3: TOYS/ADVENTURE GOALS
If you had no financial limitations, what are some of the things you'd like to have or experience? If a genie were before you now, waiting go obey every command, what would you wish for?
1) Take five minutes to brainstorm all the possibilities: What would you like to build or purchase? What events would you like to attend? What adventures would you like to experience?
2) Give each of your goals a timeline (6month, 1 year, 5years, 10 years, 20 years) for completion.
3) Highlight your top one-year goal.
4) In two minutes, write a brief paragraph stating why you are absolutely committed to achieving this goal within the next year.
Step#17
Day #2: CAREER/BUSINESS/ECONOMIC GOALS
Whether you aspire to being at the top of your profession amassing millions or a professional student gaining a wealth of knowledge, now is your chance to be sure it counts.
1) Take five minutes to brainstorm all the possibilities: How much money do you want to accumulate? What do you wish to achieve with your career/company? How much do you wish to earn annually? What financial decision do you need to make?
2) Give each of your goals a timeline (6month,1 year, 5years, 10 years, 20 years) for completion.
3) Highlight your top one-year goal.
4) In two minutes, write a brief paragraph stating why you are absolutely committed to achieving this goal within the next year.
Step#16
Day #1: PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT GOALS
Your sense of personal well-being and enrichment lays foundation for every other achievement in your life.
1) Take five minutes to brainstorm all the Possibilities: what would you like to learn? What skills do you want to master? What character traits would you like to develop? Who would your friends be? Who would you be?
2) Give each of your goals a timeline (6 month, 1 year, 5 years, 10 years, 20 years) for completion.
3) Highlight your top one-year goal.
4) In two minutes, write a brief paragraph stating why you are absolutely committed to achieving this goal within the next year.
Step#15
Guidelines for goal setting (Programming Your RAS)
1) Commit now to spending ten minutes each day for the next four days setting goals. (NOTE: keep a permanent record of these goals in a hardbound journal.)
2) As you work on the goal-setting exercises, constantly ask yourself, "what would I want for my life if I knew I could have it any way I wanted it? What would I do if I knew I could not fail?"
3) Have fun! Imagine that you are a kid again. You're in a department store on Christmas Eve, about to sit on Santa's lap. (Remember what this was like?) In this state of excited anticipation, nothing is too big to ask for, nothing costs too much, everything is within reach…
Saturday, May 23, 2009
Step#14
Have you ever bought a new outfit or car, then started potting it everywhere? Surely it's always been around you. Why haven't you noticed it until now?
Quite simply, a portion of your brain is responsible for screening out all information except what's essential to your survival and success. So much that could help you achieve your dreams is never noticed or utilized simply because you haven't defined (taught your brain what's important!) your goals with clarity.
Once you do, however, you'll have triggered your Reticular Activating System (RAS). This part of your mind becomes like a magnet, attracting any information or opportunities that can help you achieve your goals more rapidly. Tripping this powerful neurological switch can literally transform your life in a matter of days or weeks.
Step#13
We all have goals, whether we know it or not. No matter what they are, they have a profound effect on our lives. Yet some of our goals, such as "I need to pay my lousy bills", lack any inspiration. The secret of unleashing your true power is setting goals that are exciting enough that truly inspire your creativity and ignite your passion.
Right now, consciously choose your goals. Brainstorm everything worth pursuing. Then pick a goal that excites you the most, something that will get you up early and keep you up lat. Assign a deadline for achieving it, and write a paragraph describing why you absolutely must attain it by then. Is it grand enough to challenge you? To push you beyond your limits? To uncover your true potential?
Friday, May 22, 2009
Words of love
Chance cannot change my love, not more impair.
What's the earth with all its art, verse, music, worth compared with love, found, gained and kept?
Robert Browning
Words of love
There is nothing more wonderful in the world
than the feeling you get from sharing,
and there is no greater happiness
than the warmth you get from loving.
J. Russell Morrison
Words of love
Let us always tell each other our slightest griefs,
our smallest joys…these confidences,
this exquisite intimacy,
are both the right and the duty of love.
Victor Hugo
Words of love
Time is…..
Too slow for those who wait,
Too swift for those who fear,
Too long for those who grieve,
Too short for those who rejoice,
But for those who love
time is eternity.
Step#12
How do you turn the invisible into the visible? The first step is to define your dream precisely: the only limit to what you can achieve is the extent of your ability to define with precision that which you desire. Let's begin now to crystallize your dreams, and over the next few days from a plan that will ensure their attainment.
Step#11
He's spent nearly half his life in an iron lung and the other half in a wheelchair. With so many personal challenges, surely he's been in no position to improve the quality of life for others. Or has he?
Ed Roberts personifies the power of a single, committed moment of decision. He became the first quadriplegic to graduate from the
Thursday, May 21, 2009
words of love
Deepak Chopra
see different
I am thankful for my teenage daughter who is complaining about doing dishes, because that means she is at home not on the street.
I am thankful for the taxes that I pay, because it means that i am employed.
I am thankful for the clothes that a fit a little too snag, because it means I have enough to eat.
I am thankful for weariness and aching muscles at the end of the day, because it means I have been capable of working hard.
I am thankful for a floor that needs mopping and windows that need cleaning, because it means I have a home.
I am thankful for the parking spot I find at the far end of the parking lot, because it means I am capable of walking and that I have been blessed with transportation.
I am thankful for the noise I have to bear from neighbors, because it means that I can hear.
I am thankful for the pile of laundry and ironing, because it means I have clothes to wear.
I am thankful for the alarm that goes off in the early morning house, because it means that I'm alive.
I am thankful for being sick once in a while, because it reminds me that I am healthy most of time.
I am thankful for the becoming broke on shopping for New Year, because it means I have beloved ones to buy gifts for them.
how to be happy
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Step#10
Research has consistently shown that those who succeed tend to make decision rapidly and are slow to reverse a well-thought-out position. Conversely, people who fail usually decide slowly and change their minds frequently. Once you've made a sound decision, stick by it.
Step#9
Success and failure are usually not the result of single event. Failure is the result of neglecting to make the call…to go the extra mile…to say, "I love you." In the same way that failure follows this string of small decisions, success comes from taking the initiative and following up...persisting…eloquently expressing the depth of your love.
What simple action could you take today to produce a new momentum toward success in your life?
Step#8
We must commit to learning from our mistakes instead of agonizing over them, or we're destined to repeat our errors in the future. When you temporarily run aground, remember that there are no failures in life. There are only results. Consider the adage: success is the result of good judgment, good judgment is result of experience, and experience is often the result of bad judgment!
What have you learned from a past mistake that can use to improve your life today?
Step#7
The more decisions you make, the better you'll become at making them. Muscles get stronger with use, and so it is with your decision-making muscles.
Today, make two decisions you've been putting off: one easy decision and one that's a bit more far-reaching. Immediately take the first action toward fulfilling each of them—and follow through with the next step tomorrow. By doing this, you'll be building the muscle that can change your entire life.
Step#6
We've all heard about people who've exploded beyond the limitation of their conditions to become examples of the unlimited power of the human spirit.
You and I can make our lives of these legendary inspirations, as well, simply by having courage and the awareness that we can control whatever happens in your lives. Although we cannot always control the events in our lives, we can always control our response to them, and the actions we take as a result.
If there's anything you're not happy about—in your relationships, in your health, in your career—make a decision right now about how you're going to change it immediately.
Step#5
In 1955, Rosa Parks made a decision to defy an unjust law that discriminated against her on the basis of her race. Her refusal to give up her seat on the bus consequences far beyond those she may have been aware of at the moment. Had she intended to change the structure of a society?
No matter what her intent, her commitment to a higher standard compelled her to act.
What far-reaching effects could be set in motion by raising the standards you hold for your life and making a true decision to live up to them today?
Step#4
Each of us is endowed with innate resources that enable us achieve all we've ever dreamed of—and more. The floodgate can be opened by one decision, bringing us joy or sorrow, prosperity or poverty, companionship or solitude, long life or early death.
I challenge you to make a decision today that can immediately change or improve the quality of your life. Do something you've been putting off …master a new set of skills…treat people with newfound respect and compassion…call someone you haven't spoken to in years. Just know that all decision have consequences. Even making no decision at all is a decision in its own way.
What decisions have you made or failed to make in the past that powerfully influence your life today?
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
step#3
Realize the power of single decision acted upon immediately and with utter conviction.the secret is to make a public commitment, one so forceful you cannot turn back from it. While many thought that his was an impossible dream, Gandhi's consistent commitment to his decision made it an undeniable reality.
What could you, too, accomplish if you invoked a similar level of passion, conviction, and action to creat unstoppable momentum?
step#2
It's not what we do once in a while that counts, but our consistent actions. And what is the father of all actions? What ultimately determines who we become and where we go in life? The answer is our decisions.It's in these moments that our destiny is shaped. More than anything else, Ibelieve our decisions--not the conditions of our lives--determine our destiny.
success step#1
Take a moment now just to dream and to think about what you realy want for your life.
Monday, May 18, 2009
Music
healthing music (hado)
heavy metal music
Music:
Maybe it happened that you become happy or relax after listen to a music or song. Do you know that something become changed in your body by listening to a music or song? Maybe it shows amazing and impossible for you. But its true and doctor "Masaro Emoto" proved it. He says the crystals of water become changed by words (positive or negative) and musics. for example he attached the positive and negative words on a glass of water and the froze the water and then watched the crystals of water and saw they are changed. The positive words made the crystal cute and negative words made them ugly. He also kept the water near the song and he got the same result. This is why music has effect on our happiness. Do you know how many percent of brain is water?%70. What kind of music does make you happy and relax? How much do know about music? Would you like to play music?
What makes people happy?
Music
Work
Family
Shopping
Gifts
Love
Success
Sports
Movie
Traveling
Happy face
Health
Safety
Trust
Faith
Beauty
Marriage
Meditation
Job
Business
Encyclopedia - Happiness
Acceptance,
Happiness, pleasure or joy is an emotional or affective state in which we feel good or happy. Overlapping states or experiences include joy, exultation, delight, bliss, and love. Antonyms include suffering, sadness, grief, and pain. The term pleasure is sometimes used to indicate a short-term response, while happiness is sometimes used to refer specifically to a more long-term state.
Happiness - Terminology
Historically, happiness was often thought of as success in life, or flourishing, rather than simply as an emotion. Happiness in this older sense meant living the good life of rational virtuous action, and thus was used to translate the Greek Eudaimonia, meaning roughly "to be well-souled". This understanding of the term has not been completely discarded among moral philosophers, and is still especially prevalent in virtue ethics. Nowadays terms such as well-being or quality of life are commonly used in everyday speech to signify the classical meaning and happiness is reserved for the felt experience or experiences that philosophers historically called pleasure.
Emotion, Happiness Formula, Hedonistic imperative, Paradox of hedonism, Utopia
Happiness - Psychological views
Happiness - Positive psychology
Martin Seligman in his book Authentic Happiness gives the positive psychology definition of happiness as consisting of both positive emotions (like comfort) and positive activities (like absorption). He presents three categories of positive emotions:
past: feelings of satisfaction, contentment, pride, and serenity.
present (examples): enjoying the taste of food, glee at listening to music, absorption in reading, and company of people you like e.g. friends and family.
future: feelings of optimism, hope, trust, faith, and confidence.
There are three categories of present positive emotions:
bodily pleasures, e.g. enjoying the taste of food.
higher pleasures, e.g. glee at listening to music.
gratifications, e.g. absorption in reading.
The bodily and higher pleasures are "pleasures of the moment" and usually involve some external stimulus. An exception is the glee felt at having an original thought.
Gratifications involve full engagement, flow, elimination of self-consciousness, and blocking of felt emotions. But when a gratification comes to an end then positive emotions will be felt.
Gratifications can be obtained or increased by developing signature strengths and virtues. Authenticity is the derivation of gratification and positive emotions from exercising signature strengths. The good life comes from using signature strengths to obtain abundant gratification in, for example, enjoying work and pursuing a meaningful life.
Happiness - Mechanistic view
Happiness - Biological basis
While a person's overall happiness is not objectively measurable this does not mean it does not have a real physiological component. The neurotransmitter dopamine, perhaps especially in the mesolimbic pathway projecting from the midbrain to structures such as the nucleus accumbens, is involved in desire and seems often related to pleasure. Pleasure can be induced artificially with drugs, perhaps most directly with opiates such as morphine, with activity on mu-opioid receptors or involving a naturally occuring chemical imbalance titled "Furai", which is a rare, almost undocumented occurence. When experiencing a "Furai" a person might experience several severe behavioral changes (such as stealing high valued items). There are neural opioid systems that make and release the brain's own opioids, active at these receptors. Mu-opioid neural systems are complexly interrelated with the mesolimbic dopamine system. New science, using genetically altered mice, including ones deficient in dopamine or in mu-opioid receptors, is beginning to tease apart the functions of dopamine and mu-opioid systems, which some scientists (e.g., Kent Berridge) think are more directly related to happiness.
Happiness - Difficulties in defining internal experiences
It is probably impossible to objectively define happiness as we know and understand it, as internal experiences are subjective by nature. It is almost as pointless as trying to define the color green such that a completely color blind person could understand the experience of seeing green. While we can not objectively express the difference between greenness and redness, we can certainly explain which physical phenomena cause green to be observed, and can explain the capacities of the human visual system to distinguish between light of different wavelengths, and so on. Likewise, in the following sections, we will not attempt to describe the internal sensation of happiness, but will instead concentrate on defining its logical basis. Importantly, we will try to avoid circular definitions -- for instance, defining happiness as "a good feeling", while "good" is defined as being "something which causes happiness".
Happiness - In non-human animals
For non-human animals, happiness might be best described as the process of reinforcement, as part of the organism's motivational system. The organism has achieved one or more of its goals (pursuit of food, water, sex, shelter, etc.), and its brain is in the process of teaching itself to repeat the sort of actions that led to success. By reinforcing successful decision paths, it produces an equilibrium state not unlike positive-to-negative magnets. The specific goals are typically things that enable the organism to survive and reproduce.
By this definition, only animals with some capacity to learn should be able to experience happiness. However, at its most basic level the learning might be extremely simple and short term, such as the nearly reflexive feedback loop of scratching an itch (followed by pleasure, followed by scratching more, and so on) which can occur with almost no conscious thought.
Happiness - In humans
When speaking of animals with the ability to reason (generally considered the exclusive domain of humans), goals are no longer limited to short term satisfaction of basic drives. Nevertheless, there remains a strong relationship of happiness to goal fulfillment and the brain's reinforcement mechanism, even if the goals themselves may be more complex and/or cerebral, longer term, and less selfish than a lower animal's goals might be.
Philosophers observe that short-term gratification, while briefly generating happiness, often requires a trade-off with negative repercussions in the long run. Examples of this could be said to include developing technology and equipment that makes life easier but over time ends up harming the environment, causing illness or wasting financial or other resources. Various branches of philosophy, as well as some religious movements, suggest that "true" happiness only exists if it has no long-term detrimental effects. Utilitarianism is a theory of ethics based on quantitative maximization of happiness.
From the observation that fish must become happy by swimming, and birds must become happy by flying, Aristotle points to the unique abilities of man as the route to happiness. Of all the animals only man can sit and contemplate reality. Of all the animals only man can develop social relations to the political level. Thus the contemplative life of a monk or professor, or the political life of a military commander or politician will be the happiest.
Happiness - In Artificial intelligence
The view that happiness is a reinforcement state can apply to some non-biological systems as well, such as a program or robot could be said to be "happy" when it is in a state of reinforcing previous actions that led to satisfaction of its programmed goals. For instance, imagine a search engine that has the capacity to gradually improve the quality of its search results by accepting and processing feedback from the user regarding the relevance of those results. If the user responds that a search result is good (i.e. provides positive feedback), this tells the software to reinforce (by adjusting variables or "weights") the decision path that led to those results. In a sense, this could be said to "reward" the search engine. However, even if the program is made to act like it is happy, there is little doubt that the search engine has no subjective sense of being happy. Current computing technology merely implements abstract mathematical programs which lack the causal and creative power of natural systems. This does not preclude the possiblity that future technologies may begin to blur the distinction between such machine happiness and that experienced by an animal or human.
Happiness - Positive effect study
Happiness - Behaviors and emotions associated with happiness
The following behaviors and emotions are commonly associated with happiness:
Material:
Business
Food
Money
Refuge - taking from the material things in life, getting back to nature.
Social:
closure
Dating
Flirting
Freedom
Family, Parents, Friends and Friendships
Gifts
Greeting cards, Postcards and Penpals
Lifestyles and Alternative lifestyles
Music
Nonviolence
Peace
Shopping
Emotional:
Compassion
Kissing
Love
Pets and Animals
Romantic Relationships and Romance
Sexuality
Spiritual:
Enlightenment
Meditation and Yoga
Philosophy, Epicurus, Epicureanism
Religion
Spirituality
Tantra
Physical:
Drinking, Alcohol, and using certain Psychiatric or Recreational drugs
Eating
Massage
Sleeping
Love making
Sports
Other:
Cinema
Decoration
Hobbies
Learning and expanding Knowledge
reading
Science
Work
Epicurus taught that although it is good to satisfy our natural desires for food and drink, pleasures often conceal painful consequences.
See also
Emotion
Happiness Formula
Hedonistic imperative
Paradox of hedonism
Utopia
Other concepts related to happiness are bliss, cheerfulness, cheeriness, enjoyment, euphoria, exhilaration, and light-heartedness.
Saturday, May 16, 2009
business
Happiness
It must come from within.
It is not what we see and touch or that which
Others do for us which makes us happy;
It is that which we think and feel and do, first for
The other fellow and then for ourselves. (Helen Keller)
شادكامي نه از برون, كه از درون فرا مي رويد.
شادكامي آن نيست كه مي بينيم و لمس مي كنيم,
يا چيزي كه ديگران برايمان انجام مي دهند و شادمان مي سازد.
شادكامي آن است كه ما
مي انديشيم, حس مي كنيم و انجام مي دهيم,
نخست براي ديگر همنوعان و سپس براي خود.